27th Sunday in Ordinary Time Year B - 7/10/2012 - Gospel: Mk 10:2-12
Be alone
It is good that man shouldn't be alone. It doesn't deny a single life style but it rejects anti socializing behaviour. Through life living experience our ancestors knew that we are social beings. We can enjoy a single life style but from time to time we need to go out, to have a social life to develop and to growth. Diversity of opinions are good but we need someone to take the leading role for the consensus of these opinions that requires leadership skills.  People often confuse between the leadership role and superior role. What we need is good skills in leadership  not only superiority. Domestic violence happens when a person mistakes leadership for superiority. Leadership is the ability to organize, to co-ordinate others member to achieve a common goal. A good leadership brings joy, happiness and harmony to the family. A good and experience leader may have formal authority but hardly uses it because they don't feel the need to do so. Good leadership is striving not for personal superiority over others, but searching way to find useful solutions to bring comfort and good for their family.

Superiority happens when a person feels inadequate or not strong enough to lead. Instead of choosing a useful approach for the benefits of others they pursue to satisfy their own self interest and regardless of other people feelings this is the best way to destroy the peacefulness and harmony of the place. When individuals feel weak they prefer to obtain personal superiority as a compensation for the lacking. They may find a solution to the problem but may cause problems in other areas. They assume that they are superiors when they are not. When they feel their authority is being threatened they try to control other people to maintain their superior position. They like to present themselves as a person who has power and through that power everything will fall in line. They don't realize that the more they want in control of other people's lives the more they lose co-operation and collaboration. Force and power don't bring good and healthy relationships but true love and understanding do.

The man questioned Jesus about divorce to test him. Jesus took the opportunity to confirm God's teaching about marriage. Marriage is between a man and a woman. It is permanent and everlasting. It brings joy and happiness. The divorce problem arises because.

'You were so unteachable that he (Moses) wrote this commandment for you. But from the beginning of creation God made them male and female. This is why a man must leave father and mother, and the two become one body. They are no longer two, therefore, but one body'.
Divorce is not new but it is the old social problem. Moses had that problem and we now have it. The problem becomes worse by means of- unteachable-. Any definition about marriage which is different from the one Jesus taught in the Bible is not good because it comes from human wisdom, not God's. We all know that the rate of divorce is increasing simply because modern society promotes new models of marriage and turn away from the tradition teachings of Jesus about true love and true happiness.